Saturday, March 28, 2009

When my mightmares come to haunt me

So a lot has happened recently and I really don't know where to start.... Well it really mostly happened last night while I was watching the news-I saw a headline about a sex club coming to downtown Portland. Well it freaked me out for one but I never thought it'd bring back one of my worst nightmares. The whole story was that it was a swingers club- nothing new to this area... we have gay clubs, strip clubs and all kinds of sexual fantasies lived out in a small area of downtown where basically anything is possible sexually. BUT, I started to watch the segment of the news and I saw him, I saw the man who a year and nine months ago hurt me- he, uhm, molested me. I cannot get over this fact and it's really starting to affect me- there is no way to just get over it and forget about it. Which is how I feel he wants me to handle it but I just cannot do that. This man, he shall remain nameless but I found out what his name was... and well, I still cannot report him. He has multiple clubs in the area and has a twisted sense of this act of "swinging"- that its okay and there is nothing wrong with it- when there is everything wrong with it! I cannot stand that he is alive let alone around still and still doing and becoming more properous than he was before when I knew him. The backstory is that I attended one of these so called "swinging clubs" a year ago on my birthday- I got somewhat addicted and well, things got out of hand, before I knew it I had been going there for three months and terrible things had happened. I regretted everything I did and said and done with someone else. I needed to put it behind me and well when I thought I did- I never could, by seeing him on the news it aparked something in me that became a monster again and it tore me to pieces. I miss those days sometimes, when I just wanna be free and stupid but I know that's the wrong thing to do... So how does one get rid of nightmares without confronting them head or face on?> This was just tearing me up inside, i have gone to counseling- I'm past that now and I just don't know how to start from here, from now, in this present moment, better than it has been in quite a while.